You can't please everyone. That's such an old saying and most people would agree with it, but I think there are very few of us who realize the truth of it. Most of us are frequently trying to satisfy everyone and getting nowhere in the process. We end up losing sight of the most important person in the process. Namely, US.
Sound selfish? Maybe. But if you're not working to keep yourself above water and not disappear from the world around you, then you'll quickly fade into the background. If you're stuck between two people: a boss and another coworker, your child and your spouse, a friend and another friend, you'll stay there until you extricate yourself from the situation and have them deal with each other directly.
Whatever it takes, get yourself OUT of the middle. If you're in the middle, you're in drama. Drama is not inherently a bad thing, but it can create a lot of turmoil and negative feelings that don't get anyone anywhere. If we really want to get OUT of drama and benefit everyone, take a look at what's causing you to be in the middle. Are the other two people afraid to talk to each other? Is it simply easier for them to talk to you? Are you enabling them to NOT talk to each other by being the referee? You need to ask yourself what your role in the tussle is and come to terms with the fact that it would be better for you to not even be involved in the first place. Focus on your own life and your individual relationships with the two people instead of focusing on their overall needs with each other.
Unfortunately, no one can do this for you. In order to step out of drama, you have to take the first step yourself.
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